A bachelorette party is one of the only times you can wear feather boas and pink sashes and actually get away with it, which is part of what makes them so much fun. But if you’re the M.O.H. or one of the bridesmaids, you’re most likely going to be tasked with throwing this glittery soirée. Planning a party that not only the bride will love, but that will please her closest friends and family, not to mention trying to get a group of 10-15 girls together in the same place to agree on an itinerary, while staying within a reasonable price point, can be a bit overwhelming. Whew! Take a deep breath. We can help you figure out what to expect when throwing a bachelorette party.
1. Bride Expectations: First things first: this party is about the bride. Your best gal pal. The one with the ring. The one who’s getting married! This is a celebration for her, not about you or anyone else. During the planning process, all the fellow ‘maids should consult the bride to get an idea as to what she has in mind. Even if you think you’ve got the perfect idea, hear her out first. While a party weekend in Vegas may be right up your alley, the bride might want a low key weekend on the beach. Say yes, and plan accordingly. You don’t have to give all the party secrets away, but work within a general scope that will make her happy. Because in the end, the night (or weekend) is all about her.
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2. Bumps in the Road: Planning any kind of party or event is rarely all smooth sailing. Things happen. Flights are delayed. The hotel room isn’t ready. That restaurant that had 5 stars on Yelp! is actually a dump. When something strays away from the ideal, remind yourself that it’s not a good party unless something goes wrong. In fact, it’s those trying times that brings friends closer together. As a bridesmaid or even M.O.H., get support when needed, try to relax and remind yourself that if everyone is having fun, then all those little snags along the bachelorette party will barely matter in the end. Just please, don’t forget your I.D. to get in the bar, because there is nothing we can do to fix that.
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3. Budget Problems: As the party planner extraordinaire, the best thing you can do is be up front about costs. If you want guests to contribute, mention that in the Evite or in a follow up email. While as a member of the bridal party it’s customary to cover some extra costs for the bachelorette party, don’t feel like you have to pay for the whole thing. When the party involves more than just a low-key night in, set a cost in advance for the attendee’s to bring and chip in for expenses, even if it’s just $20 for cab fare. Be sensitive about money constraints when necessary, and be prepared for a few stragglers to “forget to pay.” It happens.
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4. Absolute Mayhem: When it comes to a bachelorette party, expect the unexpected. Meaning, expect a ridiculous amount of phallic items sprinkled throughout the weekend in surprisingly new ways. It is also perfectly likely that half the bridesmaids will get too drunk to stand, one or two will have a meltdown about how much they love each other, etc. Disclaimer: we warned you here first. Make the most of whatever mayhem presents itself during the festivities and laugh about it later.
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5. To Have the Time of Your Life: Regardless of if you have been pushed outside of your comfort zone with the activities of the night, you’re guaranteed to have a phenomenal time. Even if the journey to get to the bachelorette party was filled with mass group e-mails, frantic texts from the bride, car trouble or expensive flights, when you’re sitting (or dancing) around with your girlfriends, sippin’ on champagne, celebrating the bride, it all suddenly becomes worth it. And as a bridesmaid or M.O.H., you can pat yourself on the back for planning a damn good party.
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